I used to think that my husband having an affair would be the worst thing I could ever go through. A close second was being paralyzed in a wheelchair for life. And as a woman, rape has always been a constant scare.
Although it would seriously stink to have any of it happen, I would eventually be ok. Scarred, depressed, weakened, tainted...yes, but ok.
Naming them feels powerful to me. It makes me feel like the fears aren't scary faces lurking in the shadows. I see them... there they are. Affairs happen. Wheelchairs happen. Rape happens.
What would be your worst thing to happen? Do you feel that you would recover? It might feel good to say it outloud and be listened to. You can watch as huge, petrifying all-encompassing fears get diminished into a bunch of measly, scraggly words.
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13 comments:
thanks for sharing/posting. i think my greatest fear is that i will be unhappy more than happy in this lifetime. recognizing this fear i am motiviated to make my own reality.
I have had my greatest fear happen to me. I guess living through it and surviving was a good thing. Although it was meant to destroy me i the end it empowered me.
I think my biggest fear is watching someone I dearly love have one of those things happen to them and to be helpless to stop it or to real deal with it for them. Like one of my children. I can deal with a lot myself, but not everyone I love can. Watching them suffer would be the hardest thing to deal with, I would in these case much rather have had it happen to me then them.
I've had a lot of my biggest fears happen. And I've survived them all.
My biggest fear now is simply losing myself.
Divorce. Divorce is my biggest fear. I am so afraid of it that I feel overly dilligent in making sure it never happens. And then I fear that all of this over dilligence just makes me that much more overly neurotic.
I've always been most afraid of being widowed young.
Last summer/fall I had to stare that fear in the face. My conclusion is like yours: it would suck. and I would be ok.
Something bad happening to Eleanor or one of the bobbins. But we will all be alright. Right?
I'm afraid that i'll always doubt.
Not being able to have children. My whole life I've pictured myself being a mother of my own biological children. I know I could and would adopt in a hearbeat, but getting over being infertile would not be easy.
My biggest fear is being alone, not getting married. I refuse to get married just for the sake of it though.
My biggest fear is that someone will know that I'm not the best match for them, but persue me anyway. There's nothing worse than being 2nd best.
Thank you all for sharing. I heard you and thought about all of these answers quite often during my days.
one was not ever being fully loved/married, but then i got married. perhaps once it was not being able to have kids, but so far we're not able to have kids, & while this is very difficult, life is still good. other horrors have happened to close friends & family & they've survived. life just keeps relentlessly going on no matter what is happening. i guess now it would be my love having to go fight in a war & coming back broken in soul.
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